But we don’t. Because we don’t want to seem too keen and scare him away. We want to come across as the cool chick who’s happy not putting labels on things.

But where does that get us? Hurt. If he likes you, he won’t be put off when you ask where you guys are in your relationship. He’ll want to answer that truthfully, so that he can put you at ease. That’s what MEN do. Boys play games.

He’s really hot, and then he’s cold as ice.
One moment he’s asking you how many kids you think you’ll have together, and where you want to get married; and the next he’s got so much on at work, and he just needs some time to figure things out.

If he’s not ALL in, then tell him to get out. Your time is far too precious to waste on someone who doesn’t know what they want, and isn’t prepared to be honest about it.

He tells you white lies

It might start with adding a few years to his age, or embellishing what he does for work, or playing down how many women he’s slept with.

That’s how it starts, which isn’t great, and let me tell you the ending is ugly. If he’s prepared to lie this early on, how can you ever trust him? It’s the guys who tell white lies, who end up cheating, ghosting, and living complete double lives.

He overloads on the compliments, and they’re all based on your appearance.
It’s nice to know that a guy finds you physically attractive, so genuine, non-creepy compliments are always well received. But, there is a fine line, and if crossed, it needs to be taken note of.

If he piles on the compliments, and they’re all related to your legs, bum, boobs etc. then it’s safe to say he’s probably as shallow as he comes across, and isn’t interested in more than your legs, bum, or boobs. 

Beware of these early signs that he’s no more than a player, ladies. You’ve been warned. If something feels off to you—listen to that instinct and trust it.